Page 16 of 500 First Editions (The Romantics #3)

GIVE AND TAKE

Congratulations! If you’ve made it to week three, you’re on the right track!

While we move on to the deeper things this week, continue to learn more about your partner.

But most importantly, write them down. Look at the list often.

The Ford Method is the playbook. Your list is your wristband cheat sheet.

It’s what you consult in the moment. It’s customized to your situation.

Study it and know how to implement that information when the moment calls for an audible.

Now, for the next step. This week, it’s all about give and take.

What’s the give ? The give is learning how you and your partner give love.

What’s the take ? If you’re tracking with me, the take is how you and your partner receive love.

Now, don’t freak out on me. You don’t have to be at love-status just yet. What I’m talking about is this:

What makes you feel appreciated? What makes them feel appreciated?

What makes them feel understood? What makes you feel understood?

What makes you feel seen? What makes them feel seen?

We’re going beyond physical touch, acts of service, giving and receiving gifts, quality time, and words of affirmation.

How one person receives love might not be the same way that they show it.

Some people crave physical closeness and intimacy to feel loved. But if they did not grow up in an environment where physical touch was safe, celebrated, and freely given, they will not naturally show love to others in that way, even though they crave it for themselves.

Spend time with your partner this week in different environments, observing how they give and receive love. Spend some time alone with yourself and dissect how you give and receive love as well. Knowing your partner is half of the equation. Knowing yourself is equally important.