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CORE MEMORIES

Congratulations on learning (at least) ten new things about your partner. I should add a disclaimer here. This program isn’t a checklist. Each weekly challenge is a building block. You don’t throw away the blocks when you’re done with them. You keep using them. Keep adding to them.

As we move into a new challenge, keep learning things about your partner. Keep writing them down. Keep using them intentionally to build and deepen that connection.

Listening and recalling go a long way.

Now, for your new challenge.

This week, make a core memory. This is especially important for new relationships or for relationships that are being rebuilt.

Not only does creating a core memory give you something to reminisce about with your partner in the future, it gives you intentional time together. See how I used that word again?

Go to a show, see a band, walk through a festival, watch fireworks. Cook dinner together at home.

No, this is not an invitation for sex . Do the fucking dishes.

Go to a pottery class or cooking class. Learn something new together. Go on a coffee shop crawl and try each shop’s signature drink.

What’s most important is that your day isn’t rushed. If you go to an event where public decency dictates that you be quiet (like a movie), be sure to tack on something afterward where you can talk about it and listen to what your partner thinks.

If, at any point, you start thinking about these challenges as something you have to do, rather than something you get to do, it’s time to stop and reevaluate whether you should be pursuing this relationship.

For more resources, check out the BetterYou series, the Leading Man podcast, or schedule a one-on-one coaching call with Ryan Ford.