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CALLIOPE’S COLUMN

October

Can You Have Your Cake and Eat It Too?

Can women have it all?

I know it’s a bit existential for me. But before you hit that X and close out of this article, answer the question. Seriously. Can we?

Can we have successful careers and still make time for dating?

Can we use dating apps, or go on dreaded first dates, or finally tell our long-term boyfriends we want more, and still have a career?

Can we get pregnant during a one-night stand, then—in the best interest of the future child—take the time to get to know the baby’s father and, oh yeah, still have a career and goals and dreams for ourselves?

Can we choose not to work so we can focus on being moms?

Can we have kids and still have the career and the husband and the friends and the life and somehow balance every one of those things?

Can we have it all?

The truth is, I don’t know. But I’d really like to have my birthday cake—or, in my case, pie—and eat it too.

And I will.

So grab a spoon and dig in, because we’re going to figure it out.