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CALLIOPE’S COLUMN

September

The Art of Getting What You Want by Speaking (or Texting) Up

One of the hardest struggles women face is telling others what we want. We can complain to our friends about what our significant other isn’t doing. And hell, we might even be able to tell them what we wish he would do. However, the moment most of us are sitting in front of the person who is asking what do you want? we freeze.

This is tenfold when it comes to sex.

Maybe it’s because we’re taught to be demure, to be quiet, to be appreciative of what we’ve been given.

Fuck that.

Men don’t have a problem telling us to get on our knees. They don’t struggle with dirty talk. So why should we?

Need practice? Try phone sex. Think about it. You need to say precisely what you want your partner to do to you. It’s a fantasy spoken out loud. If you’re apprehensive, start with sexting. Try telling your guy exactly what you want him to do to you. Tell him what you want to do to him . I promise your man will deliver the next time you see him.

Also, say it with me: “You’re such a good boy for me when you’re on your knees.”