Page 17 of Madame X
“So I’ve gotta go back to be pretending to be a prissy bitch woman.”
I shake my head. “No, Georgia. Just... present them with something even remotely approaching the familiar to them. Wear a business suit. Even a man’s suit, if you prefer. But have it tailored to fit you...properly. You don’t have to accentuate your female anatomy, but also do not attempt to hide it. Unless you’re going for a transgender appearance?”
You frown. “I—no. I’m still a female, but... I’m not a girly-girl. I don’t wear dresses. I don’t do fussy hair and makeup and heels. I like men’s clothes.”
“Do you bind your breasts?” I ask.
“No.”
“Will you?”
“Probably not.” You hesitate. “Tried it, a few times. I hated it.”
I pause, formulate my thoughts. “You have to find a medium, then. You don’t have to mitigate your sense of self. That’s not what I’m asking of you. But if you want the men of the business world to accept you even slightly, you have to pay a little deference to the way things are for them. It’s unfair, perhaps, butit is reality. There are women in positions of power. CEOs, CFOs, presidents. But it is still a man’s world, Georgia. And if you wish to play in it, especially in the upper echelons, then you have to play the game.”
“No. I don’t. I am who I am, and they can take it or leave it. I ain’t gonna change who I am just for a bunch of stiff-necked old dangly ball sacks.”
My eyes close slowly. “Georgia. I’m not asking you to—”
“Yes, you are!” You take several stomping steps toward me, stare hard at me. “Change the way I talk, dress different.Bedifferent.”
“You said you wanted to do this? Well... this is what I do, Georgia. I remove the pretense. I cut through theshit. Which, in this case, is the confusing way in which you present yourself. Are you trying to be a man? It seems sort of that way, but not entirely. And in the boardroom, business discussions will be forgotten in favor of wondering what they’re supposed to think you are. My suggestion is to present yourself as... androgynous, I suppose you could say. A male business suit, not a woman’s power suit. An expensive bespoke suit, but tailored to accommodate your bust and hips. Sleek, slim shoes. A watch in dark leather with a sleek profile. Let your hair grow a little and sweep it back from your face.”
“So you want me to dress like a metrosexual guy, basically.”
“If that’s the term you wish to use, then sure. It’s an appearance that could go either way. The point is, it’sprofessional. An appearance befitting the head representative of Tompkins Petroleum. Dress how you wish on your own time. Speak how you wish, do what you wish. Your personal life is your own. But when conducting business—when on the clock, so to speak—portray yourself a businessperson. And I use the gender-neutral construction intentionally.”
You perch on the arm of the couch. “Won’t they still be wondering whether I’m a man or woman?”
“Yes. But if you use correct grammar, do not curse and use vulgarity or crude expressions, and dress professionally, and if you prove that you know the business and demand to respected and taken seriously, those questions of your gender will eventually cease being as important. They’ll still whisper behind your back, of course, but if you demand it with your appearance and your behavior, they’ll be forced to treat you as an equal when it comes to business.”
“What about less formal situations where a suit isn’t appropriate?”
I shrug. “Tailored slacks, a tailored button-down, a men’s polo shirt in a size that fits snugly.”
You seem uncomfortable. “The problem there is when I wear tops that fit, my tits show.”
I keep a steady gaze. “So?”
“So, I don’t like it. They stare. Makes me feel like that girl in the dresses all over again.”
“So let them stare. If it bothers you that much, then bind them, or get a reduction. Wearing baggy clothes in a vain attempt to... not even really hide or disguise them, but—I don’t even know what the purpose of the baggy shirt is, to be honest.” I gesture at your shirt and then pause for a moment before starting over. “Whatever the case, it says you aren’t sure about who you are or what you want. Georgia, my point is, you’ve owned your sexuality, yes? You are a lesbian. Okay, well and good. But you haven’t owned yourbody. You have to decide if you’re comfortable with your body, with the fact that you are, very obviously, a woman. And a well-endowed one at that. I’m not saying dress like a woman. But don’t hide what you look like. That only confuses the issue and makes you seem insecure.”
A long silence. And then, “Iaminsecure.”
“And it shows.”
“So don’t hide them, but don’t highlight them. Just... let them be there?”
“Or do something about the fact that you aren’t comfortable with them.”
“It’s not that simple.”
“I’m sure it isn’t. I’m distilling a very complicated issue down to the absurdly simplistic.”
“Which ain’t—whichisn’texactly fair to me.”
“I’m not paid to be fair. I’m paid to get results. It’s not me who must do these things, so I have the luxury of stating things that are, clearly, more easily said than done.” I move to stand a few inches away from where you are still perched with a hip on the arm of the couch, one foot flat on the floor. “Confidence, Georgia. It’s what I tell my clients most frequently. Everyone is attracted to confidence. It’s about just enough arrogance and cocksureness to seem aloof, yet approachable. Caring about how you present yourself, caring what you look like, making sure you always look your best, behave above reproach, speak with authority, yet appearing as if you don’t care what others think about you. Confidence is sexy. True arrogance is not.”